Modesty Checklist

As a mother of daughters, I was particularly interested in this…

Modesty Checklist from Carolyn Mahaney (a very powerful speaker) and her three daughters. They are the wife and daughters of C.J. Mahaney of Sovereign Grace Ministries, Gaithersburg, MD.

I really like where it starts:

First, it’s time for a heart check…

“How does a woman discern the sometimes fine line between proper dress and dressing to be the center of attention? The answer starts in the intent of the heart. A woman should examine her motives and goals for the way she dresses. Is her intent to show the grace and beauty of womanhood? Is it to reveal a humble heart devoted to worshipping God? Or is it to call attention to herself and flaunt her beauty? Or worse, to attempt to lure men sexually? A woman who focuses on worshipping God will consider carefully how she is dressed, because her heart will dictate her wardrobe and appearance.” John MacArthur [emphasis added]


This is one of the wonderful things about the web. We are all connected even though we have never met and may never meet. I don’t personally know the Mahaney family, but I can still learn from them. I may not know you, but I can still pass along advice that I found helpful.

Those in the MODsquad might want to check this one out!


It’s Okay if You’re a Little Wobbly

Admittedly flawed sinners are the most credible witnesses of Jesus, because people with scars can’t fake moral perfection. It’s glaringly apparent we can’t save ourselves. Wounded Christian warriors with scabby knees, bruised hearts, and even track-marked arms, who sometimes stumble yet always grab onto the arm of His Spirit in order to stand up again and again, exemplify the redemptive power of divine grace. We prove how miraculous and restorative the love of God really is.

Please don’t listen to the enemy when he tries to convince you it’s time to wave a white flag. To cry uncle. To stop believing and talking about how good God is simply because you’ve made some bad mistakes. Stand back up and keep walking in faith.

It’s okay if you’re a little wobbly. (from Stumbling into Grace by Lisa Harper, pg 189)


Home School Heartbeat: Liberated by Grace

Liberated by Grace

(Daily Transcript – Program Audio–Click here to Listen Online.)

Author Elyse Fitzpatrick’s paradigm of teaching through grace could inspire you to start parenting in a totally new direction—and it could impact more than just your children! Today onHome School Heartbeat, she joins host Mike Smith with some good news for weary parents.

Mike Smith:
This week, Elyse, you’ve been talking about how grace-based, rather than rule-based, parenting makes a tremendous difference for children. How does this shift in foundation affect the parent, though?

Elyse Fitzpatrick:
Thanks Mike, this is actually the happiest news of all. As we’ve talked with parents about grace-driven parenting, we’ve seen something really wonderful begin to happen in their lives. Parents are being freed from the crushing burden of trying to carry the sole responsibility for their children’s salvation, and have been liberated to really enjoy their kids. When we focus primarily on the law, we become nitpicky and all the time looking for sin or disobedience in our kids. It sets up an us-versus-them mentality; we think, “Oh, I can’t believe they acted like that! Why can’t they be more like us?” On the other hand, when we focus on grace, we’re able to partner with them in the war against unbelief and sin because we’re living as forgiven, adopted, and justified sons and daughters who desperately need grace too. It makes us “grace detectives” rather than “sin-sniffers.” This is a wonderful freedom that comes to a parent who recognizes that salvation is of the Lord and there is only one good Parent and one good Son.

Thanks, Elyse, this is really good stuff, as we know parenting is truly a life-transforming task. And until next time, I’m Mike Smith.

Quotes from our kids

Hannah – “I don’t mind being sick. I just get to feel more loved!”

Eva – If she is told to remember something, she says, “I lock it in my head.”

Neil – When Neil wakes up he starts hollering for me, then Daddy, and then “Ammie” (a.k.a Abbye – his oldest sister)! He figures that if we won’t get him, she will!

Abbye – “Don’t wear your contact, Momma, because I like it when you look like me.”

Why I blog? (part 1)

I started It’s Just Me with Goodnight, Amy! on January 31, 2006 to give my friend Amy something to read!

What was going on in my life at that time… Matt and I had been married for 6 years and had moved 3 times already. I wasn’t teaching math in high school anymore. I was raising our kids – Abbye who was 2 years old and Hannah who was 8 months. Also, in about 8 months I would find out I was pregnant with Eva. (I knew I was pregnant by The Smell of Coffee =))

Anyway, I blogged pretty regularly through 2006, was spotty in 2007, none in 2008, once in 2009, and then decided to restart in December of 2010 with Do I want to restart?.

Through the years I’ve used this blog as many things… I’ve used it to remind the Blessings Book Club about which book we were reading. I’ve shared some good deals, free stuff or contests I’ve ran across. I’ve also written tougher stuff like A Sin is a Sin, Yes?, Does Everything in My Life Have to be Planned!, and I miss my grandma!.

Entertainment Updates have been a constant. I included what I was reading, listening to, watching, and playing. These are usually written like Feb. 2, 2006 – Entertainment Update,  April 28, 2006 – Entertainment Update or April 3, 2011 – Entertainment Update, but sometimes I was more specific, as in Pride & Prejudice, To End All Wars, and You’ll be amazed!.

A blog wouldn’t be a blog without stuff about what I was learning, going through or thinking about. Some of these include Let’s Live a Life with NO Regrets!!, The Cure for Anxiety, Immediately, What I Learned Today…, My Purpose?, So Much To Do & So Little Time!, What a Wonderful Day!, They say “Don’t cry over spilled milk”…, and Good Times as a Mommy!

I also included things I wanted to share like quotes, songs, other people’s blog posts. One of my favorites is Do you wake up TO your kids or FOR your kids?. Some other examples are Deal with death again and again…, In the Garden with Adam and Eve (Beat Poetry), and Kyle Wyley. I posted The correct quote of Blaise Pascal because I found out I had posted an assumed but incorrect quote earlier. The incorrect quote was getting so much traffic that I thought I should correct it, but people keep going to the wrong one!

I’m a mom so of course I’ll include a few blogs about the kids – Hallelujah!, A Rite of Passage?!, What Makes Me Smile?, Abbye’s Poem, and Dance Recital Tomorrow. Actually, after looking back through my blog, I was surprised that there weren’t more of these.

I posted about things I’m involved in or I’ve joined, like I’m Joining Post-A-Week for 2011, Trying BookSneeze, What’s in the Bible Street Team, and Sponsoring Children.

Lastly, I’ve also included silly stuff like Eye Twitching, Not nerdy, but definitely not hip., Yummy!, What is your Perfect Major?, and of course Organizing Your Snacks!.

But what now?…


unPLANNED DVD – Abby Johnson’s True Story

I started watching Abby’s story and realized just how similar she was to me. She was involved in everything in high school and pushed herself to do well. Her parents were strong Christians. They provided a stable home surrounding her with love and support. My heart went out to her as she entered college and made some wrong choices that just built on each other. The question to consider here is “How would I have responded?”

As I watched Abby begin her journey as a volunteer with Planned Parenthood, “speaking the truth in love” came to mind from Ephesians. We must respond with both. (Great reminder!) These are women in crises. They need our help and compassion, not our condemnation. The baby AND the mother need our love and protection. They BOTH are made in the image of God.

I was very impressed with how her parents handled her choices. They loved her (and she knew it), but she also knew they were concerned about what she was doing with her life. They wanted to stay close and not cut her off. They prayed for her and loved her. (They are a good example for all with family and friends making wrong choices.)

The Coalition for Life in Bryan/College Station, Texas began their 40 days for life. It was a peace filled time, full of prayer and people offering information to the woman going to the Planned Parenthood Clinic that Abby now ran. By this time many issues had been bothering Abby. She had been given instructions that made it clear that the clinic was a business, when she thought they were supposed to be helping women in crisis. Abby’s breaking point came when she was needed to help with an ultrasound guided abortion. My heart broke for her again as, through the ultrasound, she realized the truth about what was going on with the baby during the abortion.

Abby had been treated kindly by the Coalition for Life staff and volunteers, so she reached out to them. She knew that she couldn’t be a part of Planned Parenthood. The “feisty” advocate for abortion changed her passion. She is now using her gifts and talents to fight for the unborn. She listens to and helps the women who have gone through an abortion find compassion and healing. Abby has seen and experienced both sides. She understands the many issues and can speak to more people.

I few quotes I want to share from the DVD

  • Advice from former abortion provider, Haywood J. Robinson, M.D., “We must continue to pray and not look at the people in the inside [Planned Parenthood] as the enemy.”
  • “We can’t change our past. But if we dwell on it, it won’t allow our hearts and our minds to really glorify God the way that we should. Accepting God’ forgiveness is kind of an easy part of it, I think, because we know He will forgive us for anything, but being able to forgive ourselves – I think that’s harder. I’ve turned away from the wrong things I was doing, the evil things that I was participating in. I have turned back to Him, and following Him, and so even the eight years of wrong that I was participating in, He’s now blessing that for good.” –Abby Johnson

The DVD is well made with compassion and truth. (Click here to watch the trailer.) Also, there are some extras included concerning Heartlink & Option Ultrasound and the Ginger Millermon story.

(Tyndale House Publishers has provided me with a complimentary copy of this DVD for my honest review.)


Please check out the upcoming Unite for LIFE webcast and sign up to participate:

The Unite for LIFE webcast is a free webcast featuring Abby Johnson that will benefit pregnancy care organizations. You can sign up to participate on May 17 at 8:00 p.m. (in all time zones) at Unplanned the book and the DVD will be available for purchase as a package deal and 33% of each purchase will go to crisis pregnancy centers like CareNet, the National Institute of Family & Life Advocates, and Heartbeat International.


But… perhaps you don’t have to wait to get the DVD, because I have 1 copy of it to give away!!

Please comment here by May 9, 2011 to be included in the drawing.

The correct quote of Blaise Pascal

“What else does this craving, and this helplessness, proclaim but that there was once in man a true happiness, of which all that now remains is the empty print and trace?

This he tries in vain to fill with everything around him, seeking in things that are not there the help he cannot find in those that are, though none can help, since this infinite abyss can be filled only with an infinite and immutable object; in other words by God himself”

[This is from page 75 of Blaise Pascal’s Pensees (New York; Penguin Books, 1966).]

Way back in February of 2006, I shared the quote that is commonly assumed to come from Pascal, “There is a God-shaped vacuum in the heart of every person, and it can never be filled by any created thing.  It can only be filled by God, made known through Jesus Christ.” However, as I found out through comments and checking up on it, that that was not a correct quote. And since many people are searching for Pascal’s quote, I thought it would be wise to post the correct one in bold letters!

I love the real quote even better!!

Let’s be reminded to each day fill our lives to overflowing with our Savior. Let’s remember to love on those who are around us who are trying in vain to fill their emptiness. We are have what they need, and they need to see a difference in us.

Good night! 🙂

God bless you!