Looking back on those seasons, we can glean some lessons we learned about staying focused on your marriage even when you feel alone in doing so.
Here are some of the lessons we learned.
- Keep your eyes on the Mountain Mover and not on the mountains. Only God can change your spouse’s heart. Keep your focus on God’s truth to give you the direction and encouragement to stay strong in a difficult situation.
- Keep temptation at bay. Do not place yourself in any setting where you are with anyone of the opposite sex alone.
- Do the right things that invest in your marriage, even when it’s hard. Choose to love even when you don’t feel like it.
- Ask your spouse to do marriage activities not because you both need it, but because you need it. Sometimes an unwilling spouse will do something because their spouse needs it. (Admitting that you need something is a sign of weakness for some people. This way of making the request helps them tap into their desire to help you even when they are unwilling to seek help themselves.)
- Keep an ongoing list of the good qualities of your spouse. When you start to focus on the disappointments in your relationship, look instead at the positives you do experience.
- Pray continually. Ask God to give you the love and grace you need for each and every day.
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